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Does she like me? – A Valentine’s Day special.

You’re 50plus, have not been in a relationship for some time and feel unsure about what signals a woman sends to show she is interested in you. I mean, how do you know if she likes you? How can you tell she’s really into you, how do you know it’s not your imagination?

We at 50plus4men, believe men, typically initiate the move towards women, while women usually decide to accept or reject those advances.

50plus men come from a time when men were expected to make the overt first move like saying “hello”, striking up a conversation, asking a woman out on a date, etc. But women in fact typically initiate this contact by subtly providing cues that such contact is welcome. In other words, women decide if and when men can initiate romantic advances.

It’s fair to say that a woman will usually choose a few signals to send out to the guy they like, some are obvious, some are less so.

It’s not an exact science, nor is it complete or to be taken too seriously, but how many of you have heard her say “I gave you so many signals! How did you not know I liked you?!” It's Sometimes, someone who could have been your one and only, ends up being the one who got away. Below are some signs a woman you like, likes you back. You never know, they could be your next valentine!

1. Playing with her hair.

Actually, that is the most popular way to spot if she is into you. Women like to touch and play with their hair while flirting. Her hair is one of the most feminine parts of a woman’s body, and it frames her face. By touching it, she wants to make sure everything is in its place, that she looks good enough for the people around her – probably you!! Usually, she doesn’t even realise she doing it, but it’s one of the most common signs she’s flirting with you.

She could also not washed it in a while!!

2. Eye contact.

If you like something, you will look at it, right? With women, the situation is a bit complicated.

I’ve been told that some magazines teach women to make eye contact, hold for a few seconds and smile, then take their eyes away from him, so he doesn’t think you’re staring at him. Some women may do that, but just because she looked at you and smiled, doesn’t mean you have a green light. Make sure the eye contact is really towards you, not your friend, bookshelf or some other distraction.

3. She raises her voice.

If she’s trying to catch your attention, she will speak louder than normal. It doesn’t mean she will scream or shout, but she would want to be noticed. If she gets more active and tries to get your attention when she sees you, she likes you.

4. Her posture will tell you if she’s into you.

Body language is the most honest language we use. Even if we change the words we speak, our body wouldn’t lie. If a girl likes you, her body posture will show you this, even if she doesn't say it.

We tend to keep our body turned towards the person we care about the most. Her feet would be turned towards you as well even if her torso is set to the person she talks to. Something very easily noticeable in women is that when they cross their legs, they do it in the direction of the person they like the most. So check out her legs!

5. She’s always happy when she’s around you.

Just because she’s happy, it doesn’t mean she automatically likes you. But if she gets really excited when she’s around you, and she’s apparently happy to see you, if she’s very open and chatty towards you, she may like you.

Be sure, you’re not in her friend-zone though. “How do I know the sign?” She would be slightly more nervous around you and probably will touch her hair while talking. Now you have three signs in one, and this is a way how to know if she likes you.

6. She blushes every time she talks to you.

Not every girl blushes, so if you’re wondering how to notice if that girl likes you and almost none of the things above could apply, that is your sign. Unless she gets blushed every time she talks to anyone, of course. But if you notice her cheeks go rosy around you; she likes you. The best part of this sign, girls cannot control the blush, so it’s the truest sign she is into you. Or she could be holding in flatulence!!

7. She mirrors your moves

We tend to copy the other person’s posture and moves when we are fully into the conversation. It happens automatically, and usually, none of the people know its happening. So, if her body position is like yours, she probably likes you. Just be sure it’s not because you have copied hers.

8. In the media

She tags you in her posts or sends you information, articles or posts on topics you talked about. That’s one of the latest ways for a woman to show she likes you. But a good friend could do the same so be sure you get the right message and that it comes in combination with others signs from this article.

9. How to know she likes you? Ask her out!

It’s not exactly a sign you could see without doing anything. However, it’s the most efficient way to know if she likes you. Be brave and ask her out. If she likes you, she will say yes. And if she doesn’t, you will stop spending hours and hours dreaming or wondering what to do and how to do it.

Please don’t memorise a list like this, and anytime you see a woman displaying any of these signals don’t automatically think that she’s attracted to you sexually. Indeed, studies have shown that many men have a hard time interpreting social cues, particularly sexual ones. Such cues are complex and subtle. You have to make sure you interpret them within the context of a given situation.

It’s very similar to the way you achieve situational awareness in a tactical situation, which involves establishing baselines of what’s normal and then looking for anomalies. For example, if an attractive shop worker looks you in the eye and smiles at you, she’s probably doing that because she’s trying to show good customer service and not because she’s open to you hitting on her. The baseline behaviour in this situation is that all shop workers look people in the eye, smile, and make friendly chitchat. An anomaly would be if the store worker displayed lots of flirty behaviour like touching their hair or touching your wrist nonchalantly. That would indicate possible interest.

Likewise, if a woman at work touches your arm, don’t automatically assume she wants to have your babies. She could just be super friendly and touchy-feely. That’s her baseline behaviour. But let’s say a woman isn’t super friendly and touchy-feely with people, but she is with you. Well, that’s an anomaly that indicates possible attraction.

It’s still a minefield fellas good luck and happy Valentines day!!

Author CE

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